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The kids are tucked into bed and sound asleep. What do you do? Do you spend some quality time with your spouse or do you lie on different ends of the couch, barely speaking?

Spending time together as a couple and keeping the fire burning is essential for a happy marriage. But if you have kids, you might find yourself spending less and less time together.

Even if you want to spend time with your husband, it’s not always that easy. You might be working different shifts, be in a rut, your kids may be having a hard time falling asleep, or you’re just too tired at the end of the day.

Kids are indeed the most joyful thing in life. But they do require a lot of attention, time and energy. Sometimes it feels like all we talk about is the kids. Who’s turn is it to put the kids to bed, who’s time is it to change the diaper and so on. Finding time to have a date night when you have young kids feels impossible sometimes.

Not all of us can even afford to go on dates every month. And if we would have to pay for a babysitter as well…Well, I find it hard to believe that we would even go on a date on our anniversary then.

That’s why I started researching for date night ideas that we can have at home! I came up with a list of 22 cheap, fun, and entirely doable date night ideas that you can do at home while the kids are sleeping. Isn’t that awesome?

Put your kids down for the night, grab your husband, choose something to do from the list below, and get your dating on!


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22 At-Home Date Night Ideas:

1. Give each other massage

Is there a better way to boost your relationship and be sensual with each other than to give each other massage? By giving massage you’re forced to be intimate, the trust between you strengthens and let’s face it, it’s a great way to spend time together.

Giving a great massage can be difficult if you’re not a massage therapist that is. Before your first massage date night, learn how to give him a massage he won’t forget.


2. Play would you rather

This game is so much fun, don’t you think? And there is a lot of different versions of this game, so it never gets dull. You can play it with a political twist, you can play the gross version (not for the easily disgusted), you could ask sport related questions, or you can play it with some romance.

Whichever twist you choose, it’s a great way of getting to know one another again and is, therefore, a great date night idea. You could even come up with questions of your own, although you need to have some imagination.


3. Spa date

I love going to the spa. It’s so refreshing, and you walk out as a new and calmer person. But going to a spa costs a lot of money, and you’ll need to get a babysitter as well.

But here’s the good news. Having a home spa is equally relaxing, and you can invite your spouse to do a couples spa night in your own bathroom. Buy a body scrub and face mask or make them yourself.


4. Sing karaoke

It’s kind of a karaoke bar. Just in your living room. If your kids are light sleepers, this one might not be for you. But otherwise, you should try some karaoke with your spouse. It’s intimate and a lot of fun.

A few years ago I sang Singstar every single day. I love to feel like a big rock star standing on a stage (Or in my case, the living room table). If you don’t want to invest in the game, you can head over to Youtube and search for Karaoke channels.


5. Romantic candle night dinner

This is a classic that doesn’t really need any explanation. Feed your kids dinner and then put them to bed. And when they’ve fallen asleep, you and your man can eat in peace. By eating by yourselves, you get a chance to reconnect and talk about something that’s more age appropriate for you.

Cook something that you both like or order in and set the mood by setting a romantic table.


6. Movie marathon

Pop some popcorn, get out the snacks and wino and cuddle up on the sofa. A movie marathon usually has a theme. Like a decade, a director, an actor or a genre.

I usually find it hard to stay awake during one movie, let alone two. But you can always watch the second film the next night.  If you need some ideas for your movie marathon, check out this list of movie marathon you need to have at least once.


7. Around the world date night

Traveling to several different countries can be quite expensive. But you can always experience the food and culture of various nations right there in your kitchen. With the Dating Divas 12 months of international themed date nights, you can *visit* a new country every month.

The bundle includes dinner menu invitation for each country, recipe cards and activities inspired by the different countries. Ireland is my favorite!


8. Play video games

I can almost guarantee that your husband played video games growing up. And maybe you did too? More and more people are playing video games, and perhaps you even got one in the house?

Dig out your old Nintendo 8-bit and play some Super Mario and travel back to your teenage days. Of course, you can play something entirely different, just as long as you have a fun date night!


9. Dance

Dancing is one of the most intimate activities you can engage in with another person. There’s a lot of touching and looking into each other’s eyes (pretty good idea for foreplay, huh?).

Put on your favorite music (not too loud, the kids are sleeping remember?), take your hubbies hand and slow dance. If you can’t dance, date night is an excellent opportunity to learn, and you can even choose to step out of our comfort zone and learn to dance the tango.


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10. Take personality tests

This is a great way to get to know one another on a deeper level. Personality test lets you know who you are and why you do things. Just think of how great it would be if you understood why your husband does things. That opens up for a whole new level of understanding between you guys!

Take these tests to understand who you are and why you do things the way you do and how compatible you are as a couple.


11. Play board games

You don’t always have to talk to each other at date night. Sometimes the conversation just doesn’t float. If that’s the case for you, then you should definitely play a board game! Board games are so much fun, and there’s a ton of them out there.

Check with your friends and family if you can borrow some games from them, instead of playing the ones that are in your closet (that you’ve already played a hundred times..).


12. Play a love game

Is board games not for you? Don’t worry. You can still play games with your other half. How about spicing things up and play a sex game that guarantees more fun in the bedroom?

It’s easy to get into a rut when it comes to sex and who even remembers foreplay? Playing a sex gameonce in a while is a great way to make sure that you stay out of that rut.


13. Have a theme night

A theme makes everything more fun, don’t you think? And there’s endless of them! You can have a French night and serve French wine and baguettes while watching a French movie. Or a Disney nightwith food inspired by different movies.

Create a beach in your living room, dress up with flower leis and have Hawaiian night. You could even copy your favorite movie and watch it after or during dinner.


14. Do a crossword together

It really doesn’t have to be more complicated than this. Try solving The Times last Sunday crossword or buy a crossword puzzle magazine. Solving a crossword puzzle together lets you see how you compliment each other. The word’s that you can’t solve, might be solved by your husband. You can find a library of crossword puzzles online or choose to solve daily puzzles if you’d like.

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15. Have a fondue party

Have you tried fondue yet? It’s delicious. You’ll need to invest in a fondue pot with a small flame underneath that keeps the mixture warm enough. Then you can serve fondue as an entree or as dessert.

You can eat fruits and berries, chocolate, cheese, marshmallow, nuts, or crackers. Sounds delicious, huh?


16. Put together a wine tasting

The best way to learn about wine is with great company. There’s a lot of knowledge behind organizing a wine tasting. But with a little bit of research, you will be able to host a nice wine tasting.

The wine tasting beginner can start off by choosing wine with the same grape variety from different areas.


17. Have a picnic in your living room

The great thing about picnics is that you can have a romantic date anywhere. The awesome thing about having a picknick indoors in your own house is that you can have it any-frigging-time.

It doesn’t matter if it’s February and snowy outside. You can still enjoy a romantic picnic with your husband. You just have to have it indoors.


18. Talk to each other

Yes, you probably talk to each other all the time. But how is your communication? And what do you actually talk about? The kids? Your day? But it probably stops there.

By playing a talk game, you’re forced to talk about things that you might never have talked about otherwise.


19. Write love letters

What greater way to express your emotions than to put them in writing. And just imagine how you will feel when you read about your loved one’s feelings for you.

Make sure that you write about how much you respect and appreciate your husband and all the things he does for you. And please, don’t mention how his socks on the floor make you crazy. No one wants to read that in a love letter..


20. Write your bucket list

Are there things that you want to do with your husband before you die? Write them down together! Your husband probably has some great ideas too. By writing down all of the things that you want to do, you’re more likely actually to do them.

Whether it’s creating a couples playlist or bungy jumping while holding hands, you should write them down. Some of them you might do, while some of them are best to be left for your fantasies.

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21.  Drink beer, eat wings and watch sport

If you’re not a beer drinker, you can figure out what kind of beer you’re likely to enjoy on the forehand. Your husband will like that you made an effort!

Then make some restaurant style Buffalo chicken wings and let your hubby choose what game to watch on TV. You don’t have to enjoy the game, but you know that at least the wings will be good.


22. Cuddle in bed and eat

I saved the best for last. The best at home date ideas are most likely the low key ones. Put on your pajamas, make something good (and bed appropriate) to eat and watch Netflix in bed together. Isn’t it great to be able to cuddle with each other in bed, without all of those little and adorable people trying to snag your spot?


Dating after you’ve already married is important. You don’t want to drift apart or neglect one another. After you’ve had kids, it becomes more difficult to find the time. But then it’s great to have some ideas of how to keep dating at home.


Let’s chat down below! What do you and your significant other do on date night?